Another evening, Sanders accused Dadou of flirting with one of his cousins while they were at a party.She told him she hadn’t, and tried to comfort Sanders for feeling ignored. They got in the car and she started driving away from the apartment complex.She was in love with Sanders, but wasn’t ready for marriage, she explains.After yelling at her for being ungrateful, he smacked her in the face.She reached for the gun Sanders kept under the passenger seat.The police found Sanders’s frozen body collapsed in a snow bank. Dadou was charged with manslaughter in the first degree and sentenced to eight to 25 years.In 1989, the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence found that while the average prison sentence for men who kill their female partners was two to six years, the average sentence for women who killed their male partners was fifteen years.This, despite the fact that, as stated by NCADV’s findings, “most women who kill their partners do so to protect themselves from violence initiated by their partners.” Dadou says she had Sanders arrested for physical assault five times during the four and a half years they were together, but that didn’t stop him.
When she returned, the two 25-year-olds started kissing. She tried to yank the door handle, but realized that the power locks were on. “I couldn’t breathe and I started to panic for my life,” she says.
She’s actively lobbying for a bill that could have potentially saved her from incarceration.
The Domestic Violence Survivors Justice Act (DJSJA) — sponsored by New York State Senator Ruth Hassell-Thompson and Assemblyman Jeffrion Aubry — has been inching its way into state law since 2011.
As soon as she saw a nurse, she asked for directions to a bathroom. Help me, please.” While the nurse treated the injuries on her face, the two officers came over.
When the nurse asked about her face, she told her, “I just need a bathroom. “I kept trying to explain to them that Darnell was very dangerous,” she says.