Has your partner ever said something like “You made me hit you” or “You just make me so mad” or “If you wouldn’t make me jealous, I wouldn’t be so angry”? An abuser will not take responsibility for his/her own actions and reactions.
This kind of reaction is a classic sign of abuse – blaming you for the anger he/she feels. An abuser who cannot control his/her anger will lash out at the one thing he/she can control: you.
If that person is your boyfriend or girlfriend it becomes a whole different story.Your partner’s reaction to situations is important to understand. Your partner will claim that YOUR actions need to be changed.If your partner gets angry when you are late (especially through no fault of your own), he/she will berate you about it.No one likes to be called names, even when it’s innocent teasing by friends.The increased awareness of bullying behavior has brought this warning sign more attention.